Guidelines for Hotwives

OK, you have heard about “hot wives,” married white women who take black lovers, generally hunky young studs.  It sounds sexy but a little scary, too.  You have lots of questions and uncertainties and many of you have written to my brother, Homer Vargas for advice.  Well, he has asked me to respond because this is something better handled between us girls.  With two grown daughters who have given me six biracial grandchildren, three biracial children ages 3, 2, and 1, by as many black men, and another bun in the oven, I’ve “been there done that.”

Probably your first question is “Why should I become a “hotwife?” There are many reasons but the most important one is, love.  You have a husband whom you love.  He may be a little wimpy, but he’s been a good provider and you want to please him, to make him happy.  You think that he might like a “hotwife,” but maybe you are not sure that’s what he wants you to be.  What if he thinks you are a slut?  Put that out of your mind.   If your husband loves you, he wants a hotwife.  What he may not want is the consequences of getting what he wants.   But that’s a problem for another day.

Love for your husband is not enough, however, to become a hotwife.  Although you may want to please him, it’s also a matter of elementary justice.  You deserve to be a hot wife.  You have been at his side, encouraging him to make more money, telling him how to dress, pointing out his faults, doing more than your share of the housework, telling him stories in endless detail.   He should love you above all other women and want you to be happy.  Naturally, his pathetic attempts to “make love to you” (when you need to be FUCKED) with his teeny wienie cannot satisfy you when you could have a magnificent black cock and a real man that knows how to use it.

In addition, being a “hot wife” should be a mater of personal fulfillment.  You are a woman and you want to be the best, the sexiest, the most feminine woman possible.  Becoming a hotwife — an ever hotter hotwife – for your black lover will give meaning and purpose to your life, releasing you from self centeredness and ennui.

Then, too, being a hotwife is a very healthy lifestyle.  To become and remain a hotwife, you will have to exercise daily, watch what you eat, maintain your body in top form.  Dieting and physical fitness will not seem like a chore when you keep in mind you are honing your body for your black lover’s sexual gratification.  You are his “sex object” and proud of being a damn good one!

But the most important reason is you!  You need more sex than hubby can provide.  You need excitement, adventure.  You want to feel alive and desirable and desired by a macho bull that can give you orgasms that make your body tremble and your senses shiver.  And of course the only way to experience this thrill is by being “taken” by a black man.

Now that you understand the reasons to become a hotwife, the important question is “how.” How do you find and attract a young black lover?  First, and this is almost too elementary to mention but many women miss this point, you need to show that you want SEX — want to make love, have sex, fuck, screw, boff, shag, get it on, “do it” with him every chance he gives you.

Almost more important than the frequency and nastiness (we’ll get to that later) of sex is to make sure your black lover understands that you want sex it because HE is a macho sexy African god stud.  You are not doing him a favor.  These are not the little mercy fucks like you used to allow your husband.  You are fucking him because you can’t help yourself.  You are insane with lust.  He turns you on.  He makes you want sex.  He makes you NEED sex! You are a sex slave to his black cock!

Now let’s talk about what kind of sex to have with your lover starting with what kind not to have.  It will NOT be the kind you had with your husband: once a week (if he was lucky) in the bedroom, missionary position, lights out, “think of England” while he squirted his watery seed in you.  No!  Your black lover makes you so burn with lust that you will want him to take you in the back seats of taxis, in nightclub washrooms, in dark corners at parties, in parking garage stairwells.  At your husband’s home, you will want it on the living room rug, on the dining table, bending over in the kitchen, draped over the back of the sofa in the family room, in the shower and especially in the bed where your husband used to rest.

You enjoy having your lover eat your pussy if he so chooses, but you have an almost irresistible desire to suck and worship his cock.  (You swallow greedily, although some inevitably drools out of your mouth.)  I say “almost” because even for a bull, every load of cum in your mouth is one less in your needy pussy.  With your lover, you are multi-orgasmic, although you never came with your husband.  Your lover’s black cock in your pussy makes you a moaner and a groaner and a squealer and a screamer when you orgasm.  You claw his back in ecstasy.  You like it doggie style, riding his cock, legs bent behind your head or heels (6″ stilettos) in the air.  He can call you every filthy name in the book if it gets you a harder cock and a more cum pumped into your hungry pussy.  Your performance will put every porn movie ever made to shame.

Because you want your lover to fuck you so desperately all the time, you will do whatever it takes to excite him, to entice him, to make him want to fuck you.  This means taking the initiative, seducing him!  (But you must never be demanding; a black stud has other white wives to service and it is HIS prerogative whom he fucks and when!)  You will want to have a collection of sexy nightwear and scandalous casual wear that signal your constant horniness.  Seldom is total nudity best.  Always keep on a necklace, bracelets, and your heels during sex.  Cleanliness is good and perfume is great, but never wash off the womanly scent of an aroused pussy.  Be proud of how wet he makes you and put up with the mess.

Of course you do not stop being a hotwife when your lover is not around.  A true hotwife would not be able to go through long periods without her lover if she did not have toys to keep her sane.  Large back dildos and vibrators will keep you simmering and ready for his return.  Masturbation is also important to help you become or remain multi-orgasmic.  And of course he likes to know that while he is away, you are missing him so badly you need a large cylindrical black object up your twat.

Now the next point is not for everyone and not absolutely necessary to be a hotwife, but many hotwives are strongly bi.  Girl/girl sex, maybe with another of your lover’s girlfriends, is a great way to pass the long lonely days when your lover is off taking care of his other women, but it is also a great way to bring other white wives into your lover’s web.  I have found nothing pleases my lover more than seeing me with my tongue in the pussy of a little unblacked honey.  In a flash he is in bed with his cock rammed in her pussy and one more little white wife had been made a slave to black sex.

So far we have discussed what you need to do in private.  Being a hotwife, however, is as much or more about how you behave in public as it is about what you do when you are alone with your lover (or with him and one or two other women).  If there is one golden rule of hotwife public behavior it is: DRESS THE PART.  When you go out, remember you are NOT dressing for yourself.  You are no longer dressing for other women as most women are prone to do.  You are certainly not dressing for your husband.  You are dressing to attract and please a black lover.

Dressing to please and attract a lover takes more time and work but, take it from me, it will pay off tremendously in the amount of attention you receive and how it affects your own “hotwife attitude”.  You should always keep in mind what the men you are trying to attract will probably like, but in general follow this simple rule when choosing what to wear: “Think dress first, skirt second, and pants only as a last resort.” This will be a radical change for many women but it’s important to remember that black men prefer their women in dresses as opposed to pants.  Dresses and skirts are sexier to black men and they provide easier access in erotic situations.  You never know when you will have the opportunity to attract that certain man and you need to be dressed for the opportunity when it comes.  The good news is that the hotwife lifestyle will probably make you feel like dressing up more and the more you wear dresses and skirts, the more you will find yourself wanting to.

Now I can already hear the objections.  “Oh, Evangelina, I could never wear clothes like that.  I’m too [fill in the blank] short, tall, round, thin.  Nonsense! The point is not to have women (skinny supermodels) make clothes look sexy; rather it’s to have clothes to make women (of all sizes and shapes) look sexy.  Believe me, girlfriend, any woman in a short, tight dress and a top that shows some boobs looks good to a young black man.

What you wear under your dress or skirt is as important as the outfit itself.  All men love women in sexy lingerie, but black men more so.  The colors and styles you may want wear will vary but in general, here are some suggestions and rules to follow:

1.  Always wear matching or at least coordinated lingerie.

2.  Bras should maximize your bust size and display as much cleavage as possible

3.  Choose thongs or French cut panties; crotchless are best.  Avoid white cotton unless you are going for the “Catholic Schoolgirl” look.  If you are with men who know you, no panties is the best option.

4.  Always wear hosiery.  High tops and thigh highs are great for casual wear but stocking held up by corsets or garter belt are best for formal occasion.  No pantyhose.  If you are like me before I went black, you probably have worn pantyhose your whole life, but they are death to being a hotwife.  It is practically impossible get fucked on short notice if you are wearing pantyhose.  Black men understand this and detest them.  Pantyhose say “I’m off limits” — not the message you want to send.  Besides, it’s pretty difficult even to finger your self or let a black man finger you, in the damned things.  End of sermon.  Stockings, however, will make you feel far sexier and more feminine and they provide your lover an easier access as well as a sexier sight.  Once you get used to wearing them, you will probably have no trouble giving up pantyhose.  Seamed stockings are the ultimate for attracting black men.  You will always get a lot of attention in clubs if you wear them and if you dare to wear them in public in the daytime, men will drool.

The only shoes you should ever wear in public are high heels.  This will take some getting used to as well but black men love them.  Three-four inches are fine for casual entertaining, but try for four-five inches for nights out.  High heel spaghetti strap open toe sandals are the ultimate “fuck me” shoes.

Jewelry is a must! It should be flashy, designed to attract the attention you deserve.  Earrings should be large, loopy or dangling.  Necklaces should draw black eyes to your bust.  Always wear your wedding ring.  Black men love to know they are taking another (white) man’s wife! Bracelets and rings show you are can be a happy member of your lover’s harem.  Anklets and toe rings are clear signs that you are a willing hot wife looking for a black bull to fuck.  A pierced navel makes a sexy statement: “I’ll do anything for sex with a black lover.” Long highly polished nails in dark, daring colors help draw black men’s attention to you.  And this goes for your toes in those high-heel sandals.

Hair is also important.  You want a hairstyle that is attractive to black men, not something that is convenient or easy to manage.  Generally black men like longer, straight or wavy blond or red hair.  The contrast when he is in public with an adoring blonde hanging on his arm is all the more striking.  If you are not naturally blonde, don’t worry.  Bleaching your hair for your lover (don’t let it look “too” natural) is a wonderful way to show how much you lust for him.

Finally a word on body type.  Any “body” can be hot as long as you are neither anorexic nor seriously obese.  In general black men like rounder and fuller women that white guys, who in turn like rounder and fuller women than other women do.  Before you decided to become a hotwife, you were probably keeping your weight down because of the opinions of other women, so it’s likely you will need to put on a few pounds.  Don’t worry about it, even if you are a little too slim, your lover will probably take it as a challenge to get you into “shape.”

Being a hotwife is more than just looks, it’s also how you act.

1.  In a situation where you are trying to catch a black man’s eye; make sure to make plenty of eye contact with him and smile.

2.  Show lots of leg.  Cross and uncross your legs and bounce the top leg on the lower one, perhaps pointing the toe of your shoe.  If you find that you are very attracted to him, eventually let the skirt ride high enough so that he can see that you are wearing stockings and garters.  In clubs a woman wearing stockings and garters is taken as a sign that she is there to get fucked.

3.  Apply and reapply lipstick.  Black men want to see signs that you can’t wait to suck cock and lipstick is a great way to send that signal.

4.  Never miss the opportunity to drop something and bend over – from the waist, never bend your knees.  (That’s what those expensive sessions in the gym are for.)

5.  Touch and smile.

6.  When dancing (probably the closest you can get to having sex in public), move your lover’s hands to your ass and press close to him during slow dances.  If you can feel his cock, he can feel your tits.  Don’t be shy about letting everyone see you come on his thick, thrusting finger.  With white guys, let them handle the merchandise knowing they can’t have it.  Fast dances give you the opportunity to whirl and twirl and flash your pretty panties if you have any or your pettier pussy if you do not.

7.  If a black man puts his hand up your dress; whisper in his ear and ask if him if he would like you to remove your panties.

8.  If he compliments your dress; tell him you wore it hoping to meet a man like him.

9.  Never miss an opportunity to tell him how sexy he is and how sexy and feminine and wet he makes you feel.

10.  Hang on your lover.  Rub up against him.  Nibble his ear.  Gaze at him adoringly.  Demonstrate to onlookers how eager you are for him to fuck you.

11.  Do not hesitate to sneak off with your lover to do the dirty during a public event.  Sex in public (except in all black clubs) may not be a good idea, but it’s sexy to be seen scurrying off with your lover because you can’t endure another minute without his big black cock in you.

12.  When you leave a social event, make sure everyone knows it’s because you are horny and need your lover to take you out and fuck your little brains out before you attack someone.

I assume that for financial security, you intend to remain married to your white husband.  Few of the young black me you are likely to meet will have more than menial jobs.  He’ll expect you to contribute to his support, so he will not want you to leave your husband.  Once you have found a black lover, however, it is important to show hubby his place.  You will no longer enjoy fucking him, if you ever did.  Most hotwives, angry at years of sexual frustration, will cut him off completely.  Some kind-hearted wives will occasionally give him a mercy fuck if he does something especially deserving.  Of course you will NEVER give your husband a blowjob, nor will you give him a full tongue kiss.  You mouth, (and your ass), if not your pussy, is reserved exclusively for your lover’s black cock.  You should of course demand your husband’s enthusiastic lip service on your pussy after it’s been pounded by your black lover.  Most husbands come to love this chore and crave to eat the cum of their wife’s black lover from her gushing pussy.

Never dress for your husband the way you do for your lovers.  For him wear loose trousers, granny panties, and pantyhose with low heels.  He needs to know a woman dresses to please real men; not him.  Never miss an opportunity to have your husband help you get dressed for your lover.  Making him buy lingerie or dresses for you to wear for your lover — the kind he used to try to get you to wear for him — is also a good way to drive him wild.  A trip by the three of you to a specialty shop where you model sexy garments for your black lover while making your white hubby pay can be a lot of fun.

Make your husband keep your wardrobe in order and rinse out your lingerie.  (He’ll spend hours of lonely frustration sniffing the aroma of your pussy juices mixed with your lover’s cum on your panties.) Make him do housework when you are out with other men.  Always tell him how wonderful your lovers are in bed, how large their cocks are, and how much you enjoy pleasing them.

Call your husband while you are with another man.  Make him listen while you are getting fucked or have your lover tell him all the things your lover plans to do to you that your husband could not.

There are many other issues in how to treat your husband — should he be allowed to watch, should he be sissified, etc.  — but I cannot go into all of them here.

All of the above are fundamental to being a hotwife, but there is one thing that tops it all.  Pregnancy! All those sexy things you wear — skirts, heels, stocking — and the sexy things you do — dancing, teasing, flashing — are twice as exciting when done by a woman with a belly bulging with her black lover’s bastard child.  You should realize that having your lover’s baby, or babies, is not an optional part of being a hotwife.  You lover WILL want to bred you.  It may not be immediately, but the day will come when he will demand that your pills be flushed down the toilet, IUD removed, or diaphragm put back in its box (he will never have used a condom, anyway) so that he can fill your fertile unprotected pussy with his potent seed.  He wants to see you swollen with his child, your breast filling with milk for the baby he put in your tummy.  If he had not seen in you the potential to make babies for him, he would never have chosen you.

This is the peak experience for a hotwife, the night your lover makes you pregnant for the first time!  Even if your lover does not ordinarily like to have your husband around when he’s fucking you, ask him if he will let your husband watch you getting knocked up.  Hubby is going to be changing the diapers this baby, taking care if it when you are out with your lover; it’s only fair he should get to see you sobbing and begging your lover to put his black baby in you.

You will want to flaunt being made pregnant by your black lover.  Start wearing maternity clothes — outrageously sexy, revealing maternity clothes — as soon as the rabbit dies.  Some women wear garments saying “Black Baby Inside,” but I think that’s a little tacky; people will find out soon enough.  Hint to your friends that you never intended to let a black man get you pregnant, but once he decided, you could not refuse to have his baby.  End of discussion.  Now of course you are proud and excited to know you are going to have a black baby.  Always say “this black baby” or refer to it by number, implying that this is just the first or most recent offspring; your lover may be planning to keep you in maternity clothes until you are 60.  (Unlikely.  After three or four babies, he is likely to become tired of you and move on to breed other white wives.  You must accept this and try to find another lover.)  Hold, pat, and rub your belly at every opportunity.  Cultivate a dopey, fucked-out-of-it expression, especially when he takes you out in public, parading your bulging tummy for all to see and know that he is cuckolding your husband.  Tell the wives of your husband’s friends how knowing you are pregnant with your lover’s baby has sent your libido through the roof.  It will get back to their men who will want to shoot themselves in fear and frustration.  And you may be able to recruit some of them into becoming hotwives, too.

A final word on age.  You are never too old to become a hot wife.  It’s even more important, in fact, if you have taken a younger man as your lover.  Although your dresses may not be quite as short now as when you were in Jr. High fucking all the black boys on the football team, the fact that a woman of thirty five or forty or fifty is besotted with and getting fucked silly by a young well-hung black stud is hotter than any twenty year old in full slutwear.  And this goes in spades once he has you pregnant.  Imagine your gray-at-the-temples husband in the middle of a multimillion dollar negotiation when he pleads, “Can we roll this up pretty soon, TJ? My wife’s about to pop with her black lover’s third baby and I want go home to see him sent her off to the hospital with her pussy full of cum for luck!”